Bryan Curtis Cary

  • Born: March 9, 1950
  • Died: May 3, 2021
  • Location: Darien, Connecticut

Lawrence Funeral Home

2119 Post Rd
Darien, CT 06820
Tel. (203) 655-6127

Tribute & Message From The Family

Bryan Curtis Cary of Darien, Connecticut passed away on May 3, 2021. He was 71 years old. He was the son of the late Frank and Anne Cary of Darien, CT, and the brother of Marshall Cary, Steven Cary and Laura Cary.

Bryan grew up in Darien, leaving to attend Babson College in Boston, MA and later to attend UCLA to complete his MBA. He returned to begin his career as a bond-trader at Salomon Brothers in New York City, and remained in the field of municipal finance until his retirement. Bryan was passionate about racing motorcycles and taking long rides with his "gang", the Pink Angels. He was a thoughtful risk-taker, courageous to the end. He was also exceptionally generous and loyal to many, uniquely able to make everyone around him feel seen, loved and cared for.

Bryan is survived by his children and their spouses, Colleen and Josh Katz of Old Greenwich, CT; Ryan and Cory Cary of Darien, CT; Christina Cary of Brooklyn, NY; and his four grandchildren Keegan (6), Anna (4), Connor (3) and Ozzy (2 months). He is also survived by his partner, Tanya Obertone. He was cherished by his family; his laughter and presence will be forever missed.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to The Food Bank of Lower Fairfield County, Inc.,, an organization to which Bryan was particularly devoted during the COVID 19 pandemic. Please note on the donation that it is being given in memory of Bryan Cary. The family will be holding a small, private memorial service this summer at his home.

Condolence & Memory Journal

Bryan was a small running back in junior high school. I was a hulking fellow. I went easy on a tackle once. Bad idea. I was hit in a commendable, surprising and even bruising way. I didn't know about the motorcycles but it figures. I haven't seen Bryan in 55 years but morn his passing.

Posted by Thatcher Drew - Classmate   May 30, 2021

Sending my condolences to Bryan’s family at this heartbreaking loss. He truly lived his life fully—yet gone too soon. So sorry to hear of his death.

Posted by Sara Littlefield - Friend   May 16, 2021

Sending my condolences to Bryan’s family at this heartbreaking loss. He truly lived his life fully and will be missed!!

Posted by Sara Littlefield - Friend   May 16, 2021

Bryan was a good friend to me in high school...more thoughtful and caring than most! He was always fun to be around. I lost touch with him in Boston around 1971. Bryan always had a special place in my heart....he was just ahead of most, even with the money and cool cars, he was soregular. My heart goes out to his family....(hi Steve)I am so sorry to see such a good soul pass so soon. But he will NOT be forgotten for sure❤.......He was just a special guy. Here's to ya, Bry!

Posted by Nancie Van Sciver Evoniuk - Woodland hills, CA - Classmate   May 11, 2021