Caryn Lynn Diller

  • Born: January 10, 1952
  • Died: November 14, 2020
  • Location: Darien, Connecticut

Lawrence Funeral Home

2119 Post Rd
Darien, CT 06820
Tel. (203) 655-6127

Tribute & Message From The Family

Caryn Lynn Diller, born January 10, 1952 in Stamford CT; daughter of the late William Henry Diller and Gertrude Rettig Diller, died on Saturday, November 14, at home surrounded by her family. Other then a brief period at her parent's vacation locale, Caryn was a lifelong Darien resident. After graduating from Skowhegan High School, Caryn attended Ricker College of the Northeast in Houlton Maine, obtaining a Sociology Degree. Prior to settling back in Darien and starting her corporate career, Caryn traveled as much as she could. Her trips included a cross-country venture, as well as a 7-week backpacking exploration of the Yucatan.

It was at Walden Books Company, working as a Loss Prevention Manager, that she found the man she would choose to be her partner in life, Nicola Melia. The two married in 1981. She then took time off to raise their wonderful children.

In 2001, she decided to give back to the town that raised her by working for the Darien Town Hall. After nearly two decades there, she was elected Darien's Town Clerk. Caryn took great pride in leading her department through the unforeseen challenges that 2020 has brought everyone; all while treating everyone around her with the love and care that only a mother could provide.

Unfortunately, her biggest challenge was silent. Despite being diagnosed with glioblastoma just weeks ago, she anticipated getting back to work, to lead her "Team," as she called them. Caryn used to say that she was the epitome of good health, and she truly was until this terrible illness, but most important, to all who knew her, they can attest that she was the epitome of "Kindness" and "Love."

Aside from her parents, Caryn was predeceased by her sister Sally Goulet. She is survived by her husband Nicola Melia, their children Matthew (Christine), Natalia and Mark, as well as her grandson Luke, cousins Peter and John Diller, Vicki (Rettig) Johnston, Debbie Rettig, and many nieces and nephews.

The family would like to thank Stamford Hospital and Yale Cancer Center
and their entire staff for their care, as well as the staff at Vitas Healthcare services especially Amy, Mary, Bindu, Sylvie, Rose, and Vondra. A special thank you to her sister-in-law and her family (Polito & Romeo) who assisted with the support of Caryn's care during her final days.
The family will receive friends at the Edward Lawrence Funeral Home, 2119 Post Road, Darien on Thursday, November 19, from 4 to 8 p.m. A funeral service will be private, a Memorial Mass will be held in the future at Zion Lutheran Church, 132 Glenbrook Road, Stamford.
In lieu of flowers please Memorial donations may be made to Yale Brain Tumor Surgery Program ATTN: Kaitlyn Coyle | Department of Neurosurgery
330 Cedar Street
PO 208082, TMP 402
New Haven, CT 06519
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Condolence & Memory Journal

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always. Caryn was a very special person.
Annette & Uncle Nick

Posted by annette rizzi    November 11, 2021

Nick & Family,
My sincere condolences on the loss
of your angel Caryn.
My thoughts & prayers are with you.
Eleanor Zisa & Family

Posted by Eleanor Zisa    December 14, 2020

We are so sorry for your loss. Please accept our condolences. We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.
Crescenzo and Donna Granata

Posted by Crescenzo Granata - Friend   November 21, 2020

Dearest Nicola, our most sincere condolences to you and your family, moments like this bring people closer.
Your friends at the Minturnese Club.....

Posted by Frank    November 20, 2020

Sempre nel cuore delle persone che ti hanno amata.

Posted by Maurizio Balboni - Friend   November 20, 2020

Per sempre nel cuore delle persone che ti hanno amata.
Jenny e Maurizio

Posted by Maurizio Balboni - Friend   November 20, 2020

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

Posted by Maria Di Pietro Polito - Friend   November 19, 2020

Nick so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Our thoughts and prayers are with you

Posted by Gene and Barbara Simoneau    November 19, 2020

Nick and family,

Deepest condolences on the loss of Caryn, a Darien icon who was always so helpful to us. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

The Sticca Family

Posted by Mark Sticca - Friend   November 18, 2020

Nick and family, I was shocked to hear about Caryn. She was truly a blessing, and I know she will be missed deeply. May God bless all of you and ease your pain through this very difficult time. Annette & Uncle Nick

Posted by annette rizzi - Family   November 18, 2020

So sad to hear about Caryn. I went to school with her and our sons were friends. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Sharon Hanks Bixler

Posted by Sharon Bixler - Friend   November 18, 2020

Caryn was very special to us - her smile, laughter and kindness will always be remembered fondly. We will miss her -One of God’s earth angels

Posted by Mary Ellen, Bob & Rebecca - Friend   November 17, 2020