Joseph R. Palmer,Jr.

  • Born: February 9, 1929
  • Died: April 10, 2020
  • Location: New Canaan, Connecticut

Lawrence Funeral Home

2119 Post Rd
Darien, CT 06820
Tel. (203) 655-6127

Tribute & Message From The Family

Joseph R. Palmer, Jr., 91, of New Canaan, CT, died April 10, 2020 of natural causes at home, surrounded by his wife and loved ones.

Born February 9, 1929 in Stamford, Joe was a son of the late Joseph and Olga Cantalini Palmer, a founding family of the area. He was also preceded in death by his son, Glenn C. Palmer and brother, Rocco J. Palmer.

Surviving are his wife Dawn Palmer, brother Alphonse, children Cheryl S. Palmer, Walter K. Parker, and his beloved grandchild Ember C. Parker.

Joseph graduated from the Casey Jones aeronautical at LaGuardia and later Emby Riddle. He served with 137th Fighter Interceptor Squadron, returning to Darien to run the family grocery store. He served in the New York AIR National Guard...igniting his passion for flight. Joe continued to fly privately after service and those of us close to him each have a story from his small helicopters to a real fighter jet. Poppy was an accomplished pilot.

He was Vice President of Palmer's Market, a 99 year old family run supermarket in Darien, Connecticut. He was also President of Associated Foods of Connecticut.

Joseph's enjoyment for the outdoors was evident. From fly-fishing blue ribbon trout in Montana to running his bird dogs, Digger, Ace and Huck, through New England fields, they never missed a bird. Joe was happiest immersed in Nature and shared that joy with everyone he knew. Joe was always willing to teach, to share, and to help anyone.

Joey's smile would light up a room. He was generous beyond measure, loved his employees and customers and was usually found walking the isles of Palmers Market greeting customers, to whom he was always engaging & endearing. Joe was an accomplished hunter and fly fisherman, a fervent hunting dog trainer and always had a dog in the wings. Joe was an all-around athlete; Darien HS football record holder for 10 years,"Spark Plug Joe"; skilled fly-fisherman, skier, golfer, hunter. He lived life to the fullest. He was one special guy and will be sorely missed by his many friends and family

Due to restrictions on gathering; Graveside services for Mr. Palmer will be private with a celebration for his wonderful life announced at a later date.

Condolence & Memory Journal

What a good friend Joe was. He led an exemplary life and what a great role model he was. We had so many conversations and endless laughs about so many different subjects. Sports, History, Politics, Travels, Food, Guns, Hunting, Fishing, Boating and Skiing among others. One of his favorite things to talk about was golf. He wanted to hear stories of my days as a PGA tour caddy. He loved his family very much. He often spoke with great pride and affection of his wife, Dawn, daughter, Cheryl, granddaughter, and brother,Al. Joe was so kind and generous. He had a fabulous sense of humor and infectious laugh. I am sure he touched so many lives, as he did mine. I am truly honored to have known him and to be able to call him my friend. God bless you. Joe rest in peace my friend and I'll see you at the 19th hole someday. Your dear friend David

Posted by David Paciello - Danbury, CT - Friend   October 07, 2020

Thank you Joe for your service to our country!❤Rest In Peace

Posted by Mary - Neighbor   April 20, 2020

My father Lewis DeRubis, Joes cousin was very close to Joe and his family. God rest his soul

Posted by Jody Terenzio - Family   April 19, 2020

I lived in Springdale. My first job was at Palmer's. I worked there for just over a year. Joe was a great boss!! He was patient, never a cross word. There were great times... I am so sad to learn of Joe's passing. RIP Joe Palmer

Posted by Lynnette Steeves - Coworker   April 19, 2020

Such a dear man. Loved meeting up for a chat with him at the store. He looks just like his father & rest his soul, he is now with him & his mother. My deep condolences to the family.

Posted by Jacqueline Fawcett - Norwalk, CT   April 17, 2020

Cheryl , Dawn and family so sorry for your loss
Joe was always such a calm kind man . He always was a loyal customer and friend of mine even years after Glen passed . He loved
Electronic gadgets and was one of the first
Satellite dish customers I had . He was a good man and father . He lived a good full life .
May he be at peace .

Posted by Frank Lasalandra - Stamford, CT - friend   April 17, 2020

The Cronin family all have great regard for Joe Palmer - wonderful neighbor and big part of the community for so many years. Best to Dawn.

Posted by A friend   April 15, 2020


Joe was a very special person in the lives of many Springdale residents. Sincere sympathy to his survivors. May he rest in peace.

Posted by The Barosky Family - Springdale, CT   April 15, 2020